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I’m going with my parent to Texas to vsit my aunt (since i’m scared of airplanes i’m not going by myself). I REALLY want to go but i’m SUPER freaked out! I’ve been scared to go on planes since i was 7 and i’m 19!!!!!!!!!!!! I’ve always been scared to crash and also to have hijackers on the plane, and i know i’ll go to heaven if something happens but i wanna live a full life. Texas is like 2 hours away but i get scared anyway. How can i get over it?!?!?!?!?!?!?! I’m not a baby it’s just that planes freak. me. OUT!

You could speak to your doctor and have him prescribe you a sedative or antianxiety that you would take before you travel. That way you could just sleep on the flight. Or you could try behavioral therapy to get to the root of your fear but that could take a while. Good luck = )

what are thelives of such people who suffer from anxiety, stress, nightmares and mild ocd. does it damage relationships. does stress in a relationship cause more anxiety and fears that in turn cause more stress for the relationship making it troubled. does this end up being a circle with no end?
how do such people cope? are they good people. can they lead a failry normal life?
is it ok to be friends with such people?

I would consider myself as one of these people, though I’m not an extreme case. I live a really normal life and I have a great family who I’m really close with. It doesn’t damage relationships at all, it’s more of a self-damaging problem for me. The anxiety takes its toll on my energy and how well I can sleep. It causes me nightmares sometimes.

But like I said, it doesn’t affect relationships… It just makes me more needy. I’m constantly needing reassurance, but the more I am aware of it, the more I can fight it and try to keep my mind at ease. I tend to internalize everything and when it builds up I find myself crying alone a lot. I overreact a lot and I tell my close friend and family my problems. They always reassure me that I’ll be fine and they bring me comfort. My relationships are my security and comfort, they aren’t troubled at all.

Yes, it is okay to be friends with such people… The only problem is, they can become dependent. They need security and if you get close, they are going to seek it from you. The problem is self confidence… and close friends can help them become more dependent on themselves. They make great friends because they are extremely loyal. Because of their anxiety, they worry about losing their friends and they will do anything for their friends in order to feel secure in the relationship. It’s hard to explain.

They live normal lives… they just internalize all their problems, which isn’t healthy.

how are the lives of such people who suffer from anxiety, stress, nightmares and mild ocd. does it damage relationships. does stress in a relationship cause more anxiety and fears that in turn cause more stress for the relationship making it troubled. does this end up being a circle with no end?
how do such people cope? are they good people. can they lead a failry normal life?
is it ok to be friends with such people?

I have all of the above and I am in a great relationship. Try talking to a therapist or something. I did and it sure did help alot. When you go to counseling they can help you to get over these things which means getting to the bottom of why you have these things/what makes you do these things. Be open to the person you are with so that they can understand better. Try taking them with you to counseling so that they can ask questions and learn more about these things so that they can help you overcome these things. They are your partner and are there to help you. Don’t let it interfere in your relationship. If it does and you have a guy that really cares about you, he will understand and be there for you no matter what. Good Luck! I hope I helped!

Please help me! I have like a gazillion phobias & anxieties I’m terrified of everything - flying: I think it might crash, cockroaches, needles, the dark, ghosts/paranormal things, dying, pain, heights, growing old, fire, the dentist, crickets, going in a car because i think it might crash, I’m claustrophobic, I won’t go anywhere on my own or if I don’t know anyone, scared of going to sleep because I get terrible nightmares … I could go on and on seriously!! I even get anxious when I pick up the phone! My heart pounds in my throat and I can’t breath properly. It doesn’t help either that I have asthma which just makes it worse!!

Also I’m a terribly hopeless romantic but I’m also scared that if I meet someone in the future he’ll end up being a killer or something or he’ll just leave me at the alter like you hear about those stories of guys who are all perfect untill you get married and then they’ll turn on you. When I see a movie you know how they have the guy and the girl who look into each others eyes when they’re about to kiss for the first time and then I think awwww how romantic, then I think how scary it could be and my heart starts pounding.

We went overseas two years ago on a huge trip we went to 6 countries and I was fine before that, cause we’d been overseas before and I used to love flying, but then suddenly when they closed the doors I started to freak out! and every little tiny thing that wasn’t perfect I freaked out and thought the plane was gonna crash. My tray table was loose once and I thought well what if everything else is loose what if the engine falls of the wing and then the plane crashes and we all die! Also, remember the TWA 800? Apparently these girls were offered a different flight and so they took it and thats the plane that blew up .. well the same thing happened when we left london to go to dubai, the check in guy said do we want to take another flight 1 hour earlier because it was only half full or something so my dad said we would and then I started to freak and think the same thing was gonna happen to our plane! Obviously I got here safe, but I’m scared that because I’ve been on nearly 20 flights in my life that the next one I go on the plane will crash because the more times you go on a plane the more likely it is to crash.

Now my biggest problem of all is my extreme phobia of the dentist! I’m sooo scared of going that if I ever get a toothache or something wrong with my teeth in the future, I just won’t go and’ll end up having heart disease or something which I’m terrified of that also but my brain just tell’s me it won’t be as bad as going to the dentist which I know it’ll of course be tonnes worse then the dentist but I physically can not go to the dentist. And then I’m scared that I’m gonna get high blood pressure because I keep freaking out about these things and that causes major major stress.

I need like a million hypnotherapy lessons or something to cure all these phobias because theyre literally just taking over my life but is there any way I can get over them myself I can’t exactly shell out the money for a hypnotherapist because I’m only 18, or if I do end up getting the money for one from somewhere, I’m scared that because I have all these phobias it’s too much to cure and I’ll be a hopeless case. What do I do to get over my phobias myself, Please please help me!!! This is literally taking over my life and my rationallity.

And please no rude answers!

Phew! You’ve got a lot of stuff going on there. Your fears and phobias definitely appear to be interfering with your life. I think I’d suggest you start with a therapist. Once you explain yourself to the therapist hopefully they can determine whether or not they can help you alone or suggest you see someone to obtain medication. Often people need medication and talk therapy to overcome problems like yours. If it’s some sort of obsessive-compulsive disorder medicine can help to stop some of these interfering thoughts you have over and over again.

On another note, there are dentists who specialize in working with patients who are extremely fearful of seeing them. They offer sedation to relax patients, along with headphones with music to calm people down. If you don’t go to the dentist routinely you can have bigger problems that do cause a lot of pain.

Good luck to you, and I hope you are feeling better (and calmer) soon.

I need to know what steps to take to get out of an attack when i’m having one.
I am already on Ativan 1mg but I seem to still be getting them really bad.

Deep breathing. Take a hot shower or a nap. If they are very bad, you can go to a doctor and have tham prescribe some medication. There are things you can take for actue attacks (like valium, ativan, or xanax)… or even a beta-blocker. Beta-blockers are generally used to control blood pressure, but also change the way that your body deals with stress. It lowers your heart rate and prevents anxiety attacks, insteaad of treating them when they occur. A natural (herbal) supplement you can take for anxiety attacks is passion flower extract (you can buy this at your local health food store in pill or liquid form). Good Luck!

I am at my wits end. How do I end my Anxiety And Panic Attacks ? Is there a Cure?

No, there is no real cure. I used Panic Away as a Natural solution and it helps me a lot.
http://anxiousanxietychat.blogspot.com/

Should you confront the child or stop it? or just ignore it? A few people in my family have it and its one of the most annoying diseases in the whole world, and today I figured that my little brother might have it, how can I address the situation and possibly put an end to it?

Direct your inquiry to the Obsessive/Compulsive Foundation in North Branford, Conn. They can also refer you to someone known to treat the condition.Its too important to discuss thoroughly here.

I have social anxiety so bad that I cannot even be around another person without becoming extremely nervous. Social anxiety causes something called derealization. Derealization makes everything appear disturbing and makes you percieve life as a dream. These 2 mixed with countless other symptoms of anxiety have made my life the most disturbing nightmare you could imagine.

I ask for help and everyone says that I need to go to the doctors and to a therapist. My anxiety led me to using illegal drugs to take the edge off. The drugs got me fired from my job and now I maxed out 3 credit cards in order to survive. I do not have any money and my current job does not have any medical benefits. Doctors and therapists are not an option as long as they cost money.

The only way out that I can see is to end my own life. Someone please help me by giving me another option. This is’nt fair! I don’t want to die but the pain has become too much. Someone please help me =(

Do not kill yourself. Even if you can’t see them, there are always reasons to life and people who care about you.

http://www.na.org/ - Website for drug addiction help.

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ - Suicide Prevention Hot line Website

Join a church, or look for help in your current church. Ask your family for help. Talk to a friend. Things will get better.

I was wondering if I went to my doctor, would he give me anxiety pills. I have really bad anxiety mostly social anxiety with bad panic attacks. Will he give me anxiety medicine or JUST "refer" me to a psychiatrist? I don’t have insurance so I would already have to pay $200 just to see him, and I wouldn’t have enough to go to a psychiatrist or specialist. So would he give me a prescription. I’m at my wits end with my anxiety im depressed and I cant take anymore. Someone please help with this!

Some GPs will prescribe it and some will not. It is a controlled substance and not everyone is comfortable giving more than a few doses. Perhaps, you could try something like Buspar that would give you better long-term relief. The serotonin-acting drugs, like SSRIs & SNRIs have been shown to be most effective against anxiety. Those are not controlled substances and most doctors will prescribe them.

I am due for a phisical soon and I have a serious needle Phobia I will definitly have to get my blood drawn and probally have to get at least one shot. I am extreamly nervous. Every time I get a shot i end up screaming and crying until i faint or vomit and having a bruise at the injection site. Is there any way that I can make it easier please help!!! I am petrified!!

I am too! Always been all my life. I tremble and get ill to my stomach.

I got smart in recent years. I ask the nurse if I can lay down (because one time I fainted when they drew blood) during the shot and explain why. I, on purpose look away, but ask the nurse to tell me when they are going to put it in. I take a relaxing breath and let it out as they give me the shot.

I find this work psychologically and it also help the area heal faster as the muscle is relaxed during the injection.