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everytime before the end of the song i hear "and that’s okay, I feel the same, I’m on my way, and I say" but after about 2:45 i hear "i’ll say" on the left side speaker and "i’m gay" on the right speaker. anyone else hearing this?? it drove me crazy for like a month after the record came out cause sometimes i heard it and other times i didnt, then i realized i had to only listen to the right side to hear it lol. but now i definitely hear it every time.

I don’t know what you’re talking about at 2:45, but at 3:08 you can hear Brendon or someone singing "I’m so hiiiigh!" or something like that in the left speaker. It’s really quiet, and you’d have to listen extremely carefully.

Alas that I resort to the internet for advice.

My current girlfriend and I have been dating and faithful to each other (well I am certain about myself, but now I’m second guessing about her) for about a year and a half. We are around year apart (I’m almost 20 and she is 18) and are both attending different universities in-state which are about an hour and a half apart. I have loved her (and still do) since before we legitimately started dating. As for her, she has told me that she loves me and has continued to do so. I realize that I am fairly protective of her, but I’d like to think that I’m not overbearing. I accept that she is going to be hanging out with the people who go to her school more than she will be with me (I do sometimes make jokes as a way of coping with the unfortunate situation).

From this my actual problem arises. My girlfriend has told me that she has been hanging out with one of her female friends. Her friend then told her that she (the friend) is confused about her sexuality and subsequently told my girlfriend that she is attracted to her. In the following weeks, my girlfriend told me that her friend has been fairly aggressive when pursuing my girlfriend. The friend initiated the first kiss and my girlfriend told me that she did not stop her, nor did she dislike the act. My girlfriend has kept me updated on all these happenings, she said it was only experimental, and told me that she did not see their activities going farther than kissing. At first, I was not opposed at all to the situation, which is certainly every guys fantasy, because she has told me of previous ‘experiments’ and is not afraid to comment on another girls looks (and whether or not she deems them attractive).

However, in my attempt to surprise her by arriving extremely early to her university dormitory with breakfast and waiting for her to return from her first class, I was greeted (after having phoned her and finding that she had skipped class) by her and her friend alone in her dorm room. ***This seems like a scene from some shitty T.V. drama or teen movie, but this is the honest truth.*** Had the person been a male, I would have left without a second thought, but since it was her female friend, I didn’t really think much of it (even though her friend was quiet and hasty in leaving, I attributed that to the earliness of the occurrence). Afterward we lay down in her bed, where she proceeded to tell me that her and her friend had gotten into touching each other directly and that she intends to continue to and further their sexual escapades.

She said it first happened the previous weekend and I confronted her on whether or not she would have ever told me had I not been there that morning. She said that she would have told me, but now I am skeptical to that answer. My trust in her has declined tremendously, because I thought we were an exclusive couple (minus the kissing between the two, which I didn’t mind). The entirety of the weekend then consisted of fighting. She does not see her ‘experiment’ as cheating on me and I am not so sure that I can believe the same. She says that she would never leave me for her friend, but I don’t know if I can trust her like I used to. In the end she first asked if I wanted an ‘open’ relationship (meaning that she wants to be together, but also be free to see other people as in guys and girls) and I had told her no. She then retracted the statement several times and blamed it on her confusion over what she wants. I asked her what the point of the relationship was if I couldn’t give her all that she wanted. That, like most of my questions that day, went unanswered. She kept on saying that she didn’t want to break-up, that she still loved me, and that she "no longer knew what she wanted." The weekend together ended with her wanting a week, during which I would not contact her at all in any form, to collect her thoughts.

I still love her with all my heart and will love her (if only platonically) for the rest of my life. Period. We are best friends who became lovers and neither of us (she has told me) can imagine our lives without the other being some part of it. I am just confused about what I should do in this situation. I know that her and I are going to be apart (though I have told her that I would gladly transfer schools for her) and I don’t want to think too much farther into the future as that is not how I like to live. I feel that I have been as good a boyfriend to her as possible and yet she still needs to have extra flings?

I am conflicted between my love for her and her apparent phobias concerning commitment (no not as in marriage, but as in an exclusive relationship). If this experimental side of her is not in love, then I feel that I want to stay with her until she outgrows it. But I am no longer sure that I can trust her to be faithful. She has already overstepped the boundaries of most guy/girl relationships, but how do I know that she won’t be "experim
"experimenting" with other guys now, too? Or if she already has? She continuously states that she isn’t a cheater, but I no longer know what she considers cheating. We talked for hours on this subject and I have told her my feelings on it and yet I am still fairly hazy on her true feelings. I have told her that I do not ever plan on becoming anymore than friends with any other girl while we remain together even though she has personally suggested that I do. And I am confident that I am straight, so her offers of me ‘experimenting to even the relationship out’ are frivolous.
During this week of no contact, I believe that the future of our relationship will be decided and what I really want to know is what I should do? I would like to respect her wishes and not contact her, but how can she decide her feelings on me like this? Am I being unfairly treated and am just blinded by my love for her? Should I feel at all threatened by her new “girlfriend”? Or should I just look at this as an opportunity to gain new sexual experiences (e.g. threesome) myself (while remaining in a loving relationship)?

Any advice given will be taken with multiple grains of salt seeing as this is the internet. But I am open to any comments, suggestions, words to the wise, etc.

Thanks to all repliers in advance.
****Sorry for that abrupt ending in my first post. I didn’t look up any length restrictions.****

So now you need to decide if you want an open relationship (which it already is given what she’s doing… in fact it doesn’t matter if the other participant was male or female, regardless of how she sees it).

my brother has ocd and we are at the end of out tether with him no one seems to be able to cope we need professional help he has been to the maudsley in london and nothing seems to work. where can we go from here its making my dad ill please can anybody give me some advice

hypnotherapy
spiritual healing
reiki
problems lie in the subconsious –pills medds –waste of time
Testimonies
Spiritual healing ,Seichim and Reiki healing
Find good therapists in your area /a good spiritulist church
When People speak about their condition and tell of the benefits which they have found by employing the treatments one can only feel humbled .
An interesting article http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/alternative_medicine/article4317985.ece

http://www.spiritualhealer.org.uk/

Spiritual healing — study the healing of harry edwards google search
Harry Edwards recalled the case of a young man who, accompanied by a lady, was brought to me for healing. He was in great pain and eaten-up with arthritis. As the healing proceeded, so his pains left him, and his joints began to loosen and become free. When I had finished treating him, it was a real delight to see how wonderfully glad he was to be able to use his legs, feet, arms and hands again… and then he told me: "When I came here, I was convinced no one could help me, and I came only to please my Aunt, who brought me."

You worked a miracle with his father when he was very ill 1983-84 when I wrote to you, but you will be pleased to know he is now working for the Council and lives a fairly normal life.

I’s report is complete - he is 100% fit and will have no trouble in resuming his sporting activities -considering the first reports, this is a miracle. I do not know how I would have managed without your wonderful help.

You and the late Harry Edwards helped me so often and indeed I am still pressing on 18 years after I was expected to die from my last bout of cancer.

I wrote to ask for healing for my sister who was to undergo an operation for aneurysm in the aorta. Her operation was very successful. After 1 day in intensive care and 2 days in progressive care she was back in her own room and has done extremely well. She was allowed home after 7 days when she had been told to expect to be in hospital for 10 to 15 days. Everyone was amazed at her recovery and the surgeon told her she had been a perfect patient. I feel sure the absent healing and our prayers were to a great extent responsible for this wonderful recovery and I thank you most sincerely for your help.

I thought perhaps you would like to have a record of the people you have helped during the time I have been sending reports. M.L. -angina, complete recovery. D. L. -duodenal ulcer, complete healing. B.L. - Angina, complete recovery. P.D. - Leukaemia - apparent full recovery.

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My son wont hardly eat anything, ive tried so many different foods and cutting out all milk but he just wont eat and i don’t want to force him and give him food phobia’s but im at the end of my tether at getting him to eat anything! Any suggestions?

he will eat when he is hungry just keep offering it and even if he just takes a few bits here and there, at least its something and perhaps enough for him, some children are picky eaters, some slow eaters, some like to graze, they will eat little and often and dont like to sit down to big dinners, just keep offering, leave small plates of finger foods within his reach, chopped fruit, veg, cheese, sandwhiches, stuff that doesnt matter if it goes cold, chicken, sausage rolls, pizza etc, he may take some food from the plate from time to time and inbetween offer yoghurts, biscuits and crisps eating something is better than eating nothing!

I don’t think it would be a bad idea and I bet they would all play chess, that’s a fun game, but really think abot it. I’m in Dallas right now and see people walking around with masks on. i have talked to many and thought they might have cancer, but just about all say there are so many foriegners in the area and new diseases that it is impreative to be careful andonly about 10% are ocd or at least that’s what they tell me.

Yes ocd people could end up ruling the world.
most folks have some form of ocd and don’t know it, but yes in a way we all do. It’s not fun but you got to live with it and i believe that ultimately they will be the ones that end up taking care of stuff. Think about it. Also never get many takers for ocd questions so thanks.

I have OCD- it has never occurred to me that I might end up ruling the world. If it does indeed happen, I can live with that.

You may have OCD yourself- do you?

A lot of people don’t really understand how painful, confusing, complex, and f*cked up OCD is unless they actually have it themselves. Even some doctors do not know what OCD is, let alone understand it. It, literally, is ‘rocket science.’ Obsessive/compulsive disorder is the most complicated of all the anxiety disorders.

Having OCD myself, I can assure you that it’s not all fun and games. On the contrary- it is a challenge to contend with. Only the strong can survive it.

But then again, you may understand all this. Maybe I assume too much.

Judging from the nature of and the approach of your ‘question,’ the possibility exists that you intended to be facetious.

I recently decided im going to seek help for my anxiety/depression. i have had it since i was a teenager and it was narrowed down to Anxiety and panic disorder witch i suffer excessive anxiety for no reason and panic attacks from working myself up. Now to seek medication for depression and anxiety is that in the end a lack in faith towards god????? being unable to defeat these problems spiritualy ?

Depression is tough, you should attack it simultaneously on both fronts. Listen to the doctors to medicate the chemical aspects of the problem, and also boost your spiritual side with inspirational reading, prayer, and friends; there’s no contradiction or faith problem there (render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s, render unto God what is God’s… perhaps could be rephrased as render to the physical brain what the brain needs, and to the spirit what the spirit needs). God loves you and wants you to get through it okay. Best wishes, I’ll say a prayer for you.

I mean as in both fear, but in an anxious way, and hatred toward bitchy people.. Is there a word for that that ends in phobia? If not, we should make one up, be put in the dictionary, and get all the credit for it! ;]
you all suck for not answering yet! by the way, the word’s supposed to be bit*h.

Sociophobia is a more general phobia which could include the fear of bitchy people.