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hi i have a huge problem and dont know who to turn to so maybe someone out their will help i have a terrible fear thats taking over my life that something really bad will happen in 2012 the world will end when i really dont want it too iv heard so many stories and even in everyday life 2012 is everywhere i cant get away from it now its really worring me iv tried talking to friends and family they say im crazy and come 2013 we will all still be here and also iv started having night terrors about witnising the end of the world comets coming nuclear war seeing the clouds form crosses im getting to the stage im scared to sleep can some one help me who can i turn to about thise fear as its no normal fear its more like a terrile phobia now i have a new baby neice and i really want to see her grow up so what will happen in 2012 and is their anyone i can talk to face to face please help me

The doomsday predictions for 2012 are nonsense. There have been more than one hundred of end-of-the-world predictions in human history – obviously none of these have come to pass. There is no logical reason to think that this one is any different.
http://www.abhota.info/end1.htm
http://scifiwire.com/2009/11/2012-15-doomsday-propheci.php

There are some anti-scientific, anti-intellectual people out there who are trying to misinform others about this. There are also some unethical people out there who seek to make money by taking advantage of people’s ignorance, fear, and credulity by promoting 2012 doomsday nonsense. Do not be fooled by this and do not let these people get away with such trickery.
The following links clearly explain the origin of, and thoroughly debunk, the 2012 doomsday myth. If you are really worried about it, you shouldn’t mind taking the time to check these out.

http://www.2012hoax.org/
http://astrobiology.nasa.gov/ask-an-astrobiologist/intro/nibiru-and-doomsday-2012-questions-and-answers
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/11/10/2012-prophecies-sparking_n_352296.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CN5sNXxe498&feature=related
http://www.breitbart.com/article.php?id=CNG.d1a7d73018336ea872c383a980ddb006.5a1&show_article=1

Ending with phobia.
I had a horrid math teacher (ironically her last name was Love..) and now I start shaking and freaking out near any math teacher.

Maesnumophobia.

Maes is half of Maestra which is spanish for teacher
Numo is obviously for numbers. lol

People are only born with two instinctive fears. That of loud noises and that of falling from high places. All our other fears are learned. Something very personally dramatic happens to us in our early years which becomes a psychological trigger for panic attacks, hyper ventilation, dizziness, fainting, nausea, sweating, trembling and even paralysis. Phobia is the psychological word for these learned fears.

The good news on phobias is that whatever was learned can be unlearned. Yes you can put an end to your fears with ‘under the radar’ panic attacks treatment subliminal CDs or mp3s. Imagine living your life free from all those dreadful phobia symptoms! A friend of mine became almost housebound when, for no conscious reason, a walk outside turned into a nightmare at the sight of a frog. It is called ‘batrachaphobia’ and is an irrational fear fo amphibians such as frogs, toads and newts.

Now she never went out of her way to acquire this reaction and nobody can tell her how she came by it. We use the word learned in the context of phobias to mean a conditioned response associated with a trigger of unknown origin. Her mind was in control of her, and this was not good. She had no control over her bodies reactions at the sight of these creatures, or even at the thought of them.

She however regained control: A subliminal CD or mp3 album targetted her subconscious mind - the source of her phobic symptoms. By targeting her mind directly in this way she changed the negative mental associations that caused her panic attacks. This reinforced and extended the benefits of a number of ‘Eye movement desensitisation routines’ (EMDR) and replaced her fears with positive thoughts and patterns to ensure a permanent end to her phobias.

Any learned fear can be unlearned with positive action by the sufferer and a correctly targetted subliminal CD or mp3 message.

Dan Bainbridge
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/the-only-thing-to-fear-is-fear-itself-682336.html

There are moments in our lives when we’ve all asked it of ourselves, why does this keep happening to me? I know I’ve had my fair share of breaking point moments.  And it took a good while, along with a string of difficult and painful experiences, for me to realize that a better question to ask myself in the midst of those instances when I feel like I’m at the end of my rope is, okay, so what am I supposed to be learning here that I just haven’t been getting? because as unconvincing as it may initially seem, pain is never a punishment. We don’t experience trials in life because we’re bad people. Nor do we suffer hardships because life is unfair. I’m going to let you in on something which will probably electrify the skeptic in many of you. Life (actually) is always fair - ALWAYS. Your experiences in life are meant to educate you. And this education can sometimes feel extremely demanding. You have never and will never be guaranteed that your experience in life will be easy, but you may rest assured that it will always be in the best interest of your greatest good.

Pain has a useful purpose.  Stress has a constructive function. It is a universal truism that you can never really know what you’re made of until you finally resign to face those things which scare you most. If you truly knew the extent of the difficult situations life could throw at you, and that you could not only handle but actually excel well beyond, you would be amazed at your own brilliance. Too often however, we elect to avoid what seems too difficult. We allow our fears to govern our choices and our doubts to determine our actions. These are the blocks we encounter over and over again in life. Every now and then, as we’re trucking along, we collide into these obstructions to our spiritual growth (sometimes not even realizing what has hit us). Other times we simply allow ourselves to be turned around when confronted by whatever ominous thing lies before us. We, too regularly, opt to go in circles rather than deal with life’s uncertainties. But life’s lessons cannot be dodged. One way or another you are going to learn the inexhaustible scope of your strength and power. You will face whatever insights life is trying to show you or you will find yourself stalled on the same redundant track of recurring experiences until you do. Everything moves in cycles. However you have a choice as to whether you go around on a flat plane or whether you rise through the ascent of spirals into the reality of your fullest potential. When you elect to do the former you confine yourself to a two dimensional playing field where you will discover (oftentimes to your great horror) that all that comes up in your life experience is everything you have been trying to avoid.

Stop trying to run from pain. Stop trying to maneuver your way out of taking what appears to be the more forbidding paths in life, those paths where you can just sense that a whole host of your inner bogeymen are waiting to jump out at you. Truthfully you would be better off if you simply adopted a life philosophy of immediately tackling any and everything which makes you doubt yourself and the awesome wonders you are capable of because the fact of the matter is, is that it is impossible to get around confronting these misgivings anyway. So you might as well just go ahead and face them up front because the situations you encounter which reflect your insecurities are only going to re-present themselves in more dramatic and more intimidating forms the longer you put off challenging them.

Being an in recovery procrastinator myself I can completely understand the appeal of kicking those little pebbles of fear down the road to be dealt with another day. The problem with this however is, is that those little pebbles are like debts, they’re constantly accruing interest. So the next time you come across that pebble, it won’t just be a pebble, it will appear in the form of a rock which you may very well choose to throw down the road once more only to happen upon it later as a boulder. You can go ahead and simply go around this stumbling block in its new form but know that the next time you see your once little pebble, it will then be a little wall. And on and on until you decide to suck it up and own your trepidation.

One of life’s many truths is that any erroneous belief you have about yourself or the world around you will eventually take form and “grow legs.”  It is nothing more than the wrong ideas that you cling to that come to pass as your life’s painful experiences.  This pain is intended to wake you up from whatever delusion has you rapt.  Don’t try to walk away from what scares you, don’t try to avoid it because it will only end up haunting you. Instead make the conscious decision to consistently do the most courageous thing even in the face of crippling anxiety and self doubt. There is no other way to reach your greatest promise.  You have to walk through the fire, so to speak, in order to realize the truth of your inherent power.  But if you cop out, if you yield to the panic of uncertainty you will only invite escalating degrees of suffering into your experience.  The only way to recognize the absurdity of your fears is to delve in and explore them. You have to be willing to be present with them if you ever want to expose your fears to be the senseless things that they truly are. And until you do, you will remain confined by the very phobias which you have been trying to escape from. 

It’s an expression I first heard while watching a Wayne Dyer PBS special (whether or not Dr. Dyer is the original author of this expression, I’m not certain, but it really is a good line). He says, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”  Fear is the source of all of life’s pains and trials. Yet fear is nothing more than a false perception. The only way to move beyond life’s difficulties is to move through your fears. So the million dollar question then becomes, well how do you do this? The answer is so simple it might actually seem too easy to be legitimate. But Wayne Dyer is absolutely right. You have the power to change the way you’re looking at whatever may have you afraid. You have the power to imagine something different as your reality and in so doing reveal the true nature of your fears to be a complete farce. Because once you truly realize that you are the author of your life’s script, what is there really to be afraid of? You and only you have the power to determine your life’s experience. You are the one who brought your fear to life, and you are the only one who has the power to take it out.

One of the biggest mistakes people often make however is to try to reason their fears away. This is always a losing battle because you cannot use logic to affect something which is itself illogical. In other words, you cannot reason with fear because you cannot apply reason to an emotion based on a false perception which is, at its core, founded on irrationality. Using this strategy, fear always has the upper hand. Why? Because you can know, logically, what’s right and truthful and still not be accepting of the truth. And acceptance is what ultimately shapes your experience. You have to know in your gut what the truth is in order to truly recognize the lie of a false perception.  Fear, being an emotion, doesn’t turn on reason, it turns on emotions which conflict with it. And the way you excite these conflicting emotions is to stay present with the experience of your fears until you can feel that something is wrong with the perceptions that fuel them. It is this feeling (that something isn’t quite right here) that will turn you off to the lies you’ve been telling yourself. It is this feeling (that something isn’t quite right here) that will spur you to reject the delusions which have enthralled you.

So how do you get passed life’s painful and difficult experiences? The answer is by facing the fearful perceptions which prompt them. By being present with the experience of a fearful perception you will eventually begin to sense its inherent absurdity. And it is this sense which works to shake your faith in your fearful beliefs. Once this faith is shaken, the fear it pertains to will quickly vanish along with all the painful and trying symptomatic incidents in your life which its viral presence was causing.

So let’s break this down point by point.

 

POINT #1

Both pain and difficulty are products of fear.

POINT #2

The only way to move passed life’s painful and difficult experiences is to move through your fears.

POINT #3

You move through your fears by facing them. And you face your fears, not by trying to deny them or distract yourself from them, but by being present with them

POINT #4

When you stay present in the mindset of any negative perception which spurs a fear sooner or later the feeling will arise that something about the thoughts you are engaging, is “off.” Reason won’t be able to adequately explain what exactly is “off,” yet the feeling will grow more pronounced the longer you stay present with these thoughts.

POINT #5

In your being present with your fearful thoughts you will eventually come to a place where you will find it impossible to take these thoughts (and the overall perception built from them) seriously.

POINT #6

Once you have lost confidence in the reality you imagine it can no longer be your reality because your life experience will adapt to reflect your new beliefs. Therefore the fear you once felt and believed in, along with all of the other side effects that that fear created, will disappear. Thus pain is overcome and difficulties are surmounted.

Evette Gardner
http://www.articlesbase.com/motivational-articles/learning-the-lesson-getting-passed-painful-and-difficult-experiences-677075.html

Well…after 2 weeks of planning strategies, positive self-affirmations and a few nips of Johnnie Walker Red…I finally managed to overcome my own personal Everest this weekend:

Driving over the Gateway Bridge

This may seem like a bit of an anticlimactical event, given that in my lifetime I have bunjee-jumped semi-naked, spear-fished amongst bronze whalers, taken trapeze lessons and watched an entire episode of “Three and a Half Men” all the way through to the end credits- however, the Gateway Bridge has always posed quite the mental stumbling block for me.

Most people know that I am not the most confident of drivers. This became painfully clear quite early on,  when, in order to ensure I was taking a left turn versus a right turn, I would have to place my fingers in an ‘L” shape against my forehead (much to the amusement of people driving beside me).

I am getting better though- and I can now drive from A to B without publicly branding myself as a “Loser” (most of the time)  but the idea of crossing over that one damn bridge in Brisbane has always filled me with utter, utter dread.

Completely irrational of course, (like my morbid fear of offal or anything Aniseed) but I have always pictured myself paying the toll, joining the heaving mass of traffic hurtling towards the bridge, and then inevitably, having my little Ford Festiva crushed between two large trucks (carrying sheep testicles and bottles of Ouzo respectively.)

                                          

However, as it turned out, the trip across the Bridge from Hell came and went without incident.

Like most small concerns that I blow out of proportion in my head, my phobia was completely without merit. Not only was my car not reduced to a small crushed circle of metal by two trucks carrying diapers or licorice all-sorts, but I actually took time to enjoy the views on the way over.

I came home feeling mighty pleased with myself and quite liberated by the whole experience. Never again, I have vowed to myself, will  fears/phobias, large or small, restrict or prevent me from doing whatever I feel like doing.

In fact, I sat down and dug out a book that I was given a few months ago called “101 Things to Do Before You Die” (subtitled “or  Before You Get Old, Boring and Lock Yourself in a Cupboard with Your Imaginary Friend “Barney Blueballs”)

                                                 

I figured that if life is to be embraced to the fullest, then surely some of the answers would be in here!

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I have to say right now, and most categorically, that if some of the “must do” activities listed in this book are any indication of what the general populace is out scrambling to partake in before they expire, I might just lock myself in the cupoboard and see what Barney is up to these days.

I’m all for trying new experiences, but after flipping through this little gem, I think the suggestions are more geared for those who wish to “Go Out and  Be Inane…more so than usual…Before You Die”.

Some of the prescribed pastimes were reasonable enough:

*Build a sandcastle

*Take a long walk on the beach in your bare feet

*Make sure to find a moment to smell wildflowers

All good, clean fun to be sure, and for those whose deprived childhoods saw them missing out on all of  the sandcastle-building/wildflower-sniffing action, a wet and wild time will undoubtedly be had by all.

The rest of the list though had me reaching for the bottle…..of Smirnoff…before midday.

Here are some choice examples:

*Go On Holiday With No Luggage

Now, as a travel agent, I would not normally recommend this to passengers. Spontanaeity aside, if you’re travelling to say, Thailand, and have the dodgy fish curry, one pair of underpants is NOT enough people!

*Swim alongside something big

…and if it has a large dorsal fin, double your fun and smear yourself with fish entrails

*Take Pole-dancing lessons

…just in case that day-job doesn’t quite work out.

*Create an online alter-ego

Imagine the hours of cyber-stalking entertainment to be had. Just for a twist, hang out and make new friends at www.tweencity.com

*Go to a Bedding and Linen store in your pink PJs

..and then wait for the little men in white PJs to join you.

 *Ride in an elevator for a couple of hours

Always more amusing if you bring along your claustrophobic friends

*Fast for 48 hours

If you are anorexic…make that 212 hours.

*Take a deep breath of fresh air

I would submit that, if you are not doing this on at least a semi-regular basis, then this list will probably be of little value considering that you are already dead.

*Contemplate your navel for 4 hours

Well, that’s just stupid now, isnt it?

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Having just come from visiting my grandmother who is 96, and actually does lock herself in the cupboard and talk to Barney Blueballs - I am thinking that when it comes to embracing life, I can probably think of some exhilarating alternatives to staring at my belly-button or denying myself pizza for a couple of days.

Next week, I might just take the Ford Festiva for a spin in peak hour traffic though Surfers Paradise.

You can’t say that I’m not game……..

Kylie Evans
http://www.articlesbase.com/motivational-articles/101-things-to-do-before-your-lobotomy-679096.html

hi iam male 22 years old.my father died since 2001 i entered into a new feeling i realized after that ,it is depression..i thought it was normal sadness.after death of my father i was attracted to a girl i tried to tell her how i feel.but i was shy it was my first time so i send her subliminal message..she knew..but then i didn’t know what happened..i was totally absent i didn’t think of doing something more than this.i had this feeling..how can i tell?!"to stand or sit and don’t think of anything absent,inattentive,scampish…it was depression but not affecting my daily life in a bad way..i enjoyed playing basketball with my friends,watching a movie,eating a pizza..and even masturbating…everything was ok..when i finished high school i attended college..and iam known btw my friends that i worry so much.time passed..my first semester was ok.the second semester i started having panic attacks when being in the university.i loved being alone..worrying about everything,feeling sad all the time,being D and F student.i forgot my goals..i forgot how to feel good,courage,and relaxed..but it was abnormal thing with me..because i didnt have any relationship with a girl..however,i was always atracted to girls in a crazy way ..when i was at school..everyday i go home after lunch i masturbate and have an image of a girl at school..anyway,throughout my depression and anxiety i continued doing the same habit "masturbation" till i became addicted..like people addicted to cigarettes.masturbating with no image in head..just for checking if iam ok..i became a bad person who watch porn too much.and my sexual drive became zero.if i see a hot woman on tv or at the street i dont have attractions to her..this drives me crazy..and i go home do that sin….Now,iam dealing with more professional feeling.i ask myself :am i a gay? then i say no..then i say what is that ..why is that happening to me?i was totally normal before..but i dont know what is that?! i dont imagine myself being with a man..just a note..when i entered into these feelings of hopelessness and loneliness ..i uploaded my photo on the internet to see who i look like from celebrities..josh hartnett was my celebrity lookalike..it is ridicilous but i started to watch his movies..when i look at him i find that i look like him..even in his movies my character is 80% like him!i dont know..it is ridicilous..
anyway, i want to solve it and put an end to my problems.i ask for help here.i was not born to be lost.my goal was to join the army.but now, i have phobia of everything..i have phobia of thinking too.
finally,,when i look inside myself i say deeply that someday i will be better..but it happens to me a lot..i have a bit of hope a day.and the next day i feel like iam in hell "feeling guilty,worried,nervous,fear,suicide thoughts,and escape".
i have a lot to write. but now i need some help ..i need a professionals..thanks

I am very sorry for the loss of your father and hope you find it reassuring that it is all very much how grieving goes. But now you are battling with mental illness and that is not normal; you mentioning Depression, Anxiety disorder, Phobias, Panic attack and so on.

You often feel very anxious without reason and your worries disrupt your daily life. Your anxiety disorder is causing excessive or unrealistic anxiety and worry, well beyond what’s appropriate for a situation. In addition to dealing with excessive worry, you may also have feelings of depression to cope with. Living with anxiety disorder can be difficult, but treatment is available. Medications and psychotherapy can help ease symptoms, and you can learn healthy coping skills to manage anxiety disorder and take back your life.

Take care as always!

Hi i need a question about phobia’s that can leave the audiance in questions. all i have till now for my ending is..

Everyone has a phobia, whether it’s the fear of ghosts or pencils. It doesn’t matter how big or how small it is. It’s just a part of life.

Please help!!
Thanks

Death Angel,how about how many of you have phobias or know of someone that does? I hope that you get a great grade on your assignment,I did read your post as to what you had all ready accomplished on the assignment and I think that you did an excellent job in my opinion! Tomb Raider.

Hi guys. : )

Okay, this may sound weird to you but I am always concerned about having to pee. It is such a fargone fear that it stops me from going places unless I know there will be a bathroom available. This fear started when I was a kid, in three instances that still scare me.

1. I drank a lot of water during the day and by nighttime, I was peeing every five minutes.
2. This is the worst one: I had to pee really badly but since I was always fighting for the washer in the apartment complex (this happened when I was about 12) I decided to hurry down and throw the clothes in the available washer. I guess I underestimated my need to pee and all of a sudden I couldn’t hold it anymore and I ended up peeing. I was mortified. No one was there but that memory is stuck in my head.

3. In middle school, during one of my classes, I had to pee really badly and I asked my teacher if I could be allowed to go to the bathroom. It wasn’t like she was teaching. We were doing sit down work, but she told me no. I asked again and she said no. Finally, I told her I was going because I was going to pee myself if not.

It sounds irrational, but now into my early 20s, I am terrified of long bus or car rides because I’m scared that I will have to pee and there won’t be a bathroom. I HATE public restrooms and it actually took me 5 minutes to muster up the courage to even enter one at a local beach.

I feel like this problem is keeping me from doing a lot of things. I’m not sure if it’s all psychological or a real physical problem. I would say that I have the urge to pee every 2 hours but there have been times when I’ve been really busy and have been able to wait 4-5 hours.

Please help me. This thing is taking over my life. I want to live more this year and I feel like this is something that will hold me back.

Hello Kizzieke,
I think it is both, but more a psychological than a physical problem. I also need to pee about every 2 hours. A bit similar to you the problem rose in periods of my life when I had to keep tight my bladder for a too long time. Then the bladder gets more nervous and this affects your mind. Your bladder already alarms you when it is maybe half full.
At school I did not ask the teacher, I just went to the door and said: "I’m sorry I have to go to the bathroom." or "I’m back immediately!"

Especially when I chill/feel cold my bladder is less tolerant. Then I try to find a place to pee, but as calm as possible. I’m conscious I have some more time, but I should look for it. The more nervous I am the less tolerant is the bladder.

I also dislike to go to stinky public restrooms, but my happiness I found a place I feel better after weighs more.

Try to take care of your physical desire by peeing as frequently as you need to. But never try to squeeze out your pee by your fear not to find a proper place to pee within the next hours. Try to be calmed and to calm yourself while you pee. After your first flow maybe wait a little time and calmly pee more if there is some left. - Otherwise your bladder gets more nervous and urges to pee more frequently. I made this experience.

If this way you can calm your bladder, I hope you neither will be hyper nervous.
Your hate of public restrooms combined with your intolerant bladder could be problem. I think you are a girl, or? Maybe you can try to pee without sitting down onto the closet. That’s less easy but maybe a compromise, so at least your bladder is emptied and your buttocks still clean. You also could take some spray with you and make the official restroom more pleasant for your nose for the while you are there
Think of the much better feeling after. - Or you are very confident to find a more pleasant place to pee. Try to think rational and forget your emotions for a while I know by myself this can be really difficult, but certainly you also will be happy after you did

When I am anywhere I also have a look for a bathroom. Now I’m used to act this way and before I saw your question I almost forgot I have (had) this problem. Actually now it is no real problem to me anymore.

Peeing is a humane necessity. Everybody has something that’s a bit different from the majority of the people. If you have to pee more frequently they have to accept this. At long bus or car rides you certainly regularly make stops to pee. If they feel annoyed, tell them openly your bladder is a bit affected. Then I hope they will accept it more willingly if you politely ask them to make another pee stop.

I hope I could have helped you, so you feel much better now

André

If you like more assistance, you can contact me directly. My mail is quetzalis@yahoo.de

http://www.boxingscene.com/?m=show&id=24279

Bob Arum apparently has enough of Mayweather’s demands and now it seems that Arum is willingly going to cancel the biggest fight in recent history over Pacquiao having a "phobia" over needles. This is really disappointing and a big bummer. It’s not even a matter of arguing whose the better fighter now…both fighters have contributed to this drama. Both sides are making claims/statements that make me nod my head in disagreement and embarrassment. Now, its not the end of the world, and this fight could very well be up and set by this week, but after all the hype that has been building up, should the fight be absolutely canceled…it’ll be a huge blow to boxing and to us, the faithful fans of the sweet science. Shame on all of them.

floyd is a ducker.

I don’t know how to end my speech it’s on phobias it’s really good and all but i just don’t have a really good ending

It kind of depends on your intro. It should come full circle. Most introductions will prepare the audience for the approach you plan to take. If you are asking a question of the audience in the intro, leave them with a question to ponder at the end. If you begin with statistics, end with an emotional statement that you hope your audience has derived from your speech. I hope this helps. But if you need more ideas, email me.