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Hi i need a question about phobia’s that can leave the audiance in questions. all i have till now for my ending is..

Everyone has a phobia, whether it’s the fear of ghosts or pencils. It doesn’t matter how big or how small it is. It’s just a part of life.

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Death Angel,how about how many of you have phobias or know of someone that does? I hope that you get a great grade on your assignment,I did read your post as to what you had all ready accomplished on the assignment and I think that you did an excellent job in my opinion! Tomb Raider.

Hi guys. : )

Okay, this may sound weird to you but I am always concerned about having to pee. It is such a fargone fear that it stops me from going places unless I know there will be a bathroom available. This fear started when I was a kid, in three instances that still scare me.

1. I drank a lot of water during the day and by nighttime, I was peeing every five minutes.
2. This is the worst one: I had to pee really badly but since I was always fighting for the washer in the apartment complex (this happened when I was about 12) I decided to hurry down and throw the clothes in the available washer. I guess I underestimated my need to pee and all of a sudden I couldn’t hold it anymore and I ended up peeing. I was mortified. No one was there but that memory is stuck in my head.

3. In middle school, during one of my classes, I had to pee really badly and I asked my teacher if I could be allowed to go to the bathroom. It wasn’t like she was teaching. We were doing sit down work, but she told me no. I asked again and she said no. Finally, I told her I was going because I was going to pee myself if not.

It sounds irrational, but now into my early 20s, I am terrified of long bus or car rides because I’m scared that I will have to pee and there won’t be a bathroom. I HATE public restrooms and it actually took me 5 minutes to muster up the courage to even enter one at a local beach.

I feel like this problem is keeping me from doing a lot of things. I’m not sure if it’s all psychological or a real physical problem. I would say that I have the urge to pee every 2 hours but there have been times when I’ve been really busy and have been able to wait 4-5 hours.

Please help me. This thing is taking over my life. I want to live more this year and I feel like this is something that will hold me back.

Hello Kizzieke,
I think it is both, but more a psychological than a physical problem. I also need to pee about every 2 hours. A bit similar to you the problem rose in periods of my life when I had to keep tight my bladder for a too long time. Then the bladder gets more nervous and this affects your mind. Your bladder already alarms you when it is maybe half full.
At school I did not ask the teacher, I just went to the door and said: "I’m sorry I have to go to the bathroom." or "I’m back immediately!"

Especially when I chill/feel cold my bladder is less tolerant. Then I try to find a place to pee, but as calm as possible. I’m conscious I have some more time, but I should look for it. The more nervous I am the less tolerant is the bladder.

I also dislike to go to stinky public restrooms, but my happiness I found a place I feel better after weighs more.

Try to take care of your physical desire by peeing as frequently as you need to. But never try to squeeze out your pee by your fear not to find a proper place to pee within the next hours. Try to be calmed and to calm yourself while you pee. After your first flow maybe wait a little time and calmly pee more if there is some left. - Otherwise your bladder gets more nervous and urges to pee more frequently. I made this experience.

If this way you can calm your bladder, I hope you neither will be hyper nervous.
Your hate of public restrooms combined with your intolerant bladder could be problem. I think you are a girl, or? Maybe you can try to pee without sitting down onto the closet. That’s less easy but maybe a compromise, so at least your bladder is emptied and your buttocks still clean. You also could take some spray with you and make the official restroom more pleasant for your nose for the while you are there
Think of the much better feeling after. - Or you are very confident to find a more pleasant place to pee. Try to think rational and forget your emotions for a while I know by myself this can be really difficult, but certainly you also will be happy after you did

When I am anywhere I also have a look for a bathroom. Now I’m used to act this way and before I saw your question I almost forgot I have (had) this problem. Actually now it is no real problem to me anymore.

Peeing is a humane necessity. Everybody has something that’s a bit different from the majority of the people. If you have to pee more frequently they have to accept this. At long bus or car rides you certainly regularly make stops to pee. If they feel annoyed, tell them openly your bladder is a bit affected. Then I hope they will accept it more willingly if you politely ask them to make another pee stop.

I hope I could have helped you, so you feel much better now

André

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Bob Arum apparently has enough of Mayweather’s demands and now it seems that Arum is willingly going to cancel the biggest fight in recent history over Pacquiao having a "phobia" over needles. This is really disappointing and a big bummer. It’s not even a matter of arguing whose the better fighter now…both fighters have contributed to this drama. Both sides are making claims/statements that make me nod my head in disagreement and embarrassment. Now, its not the end of the world, and this fight could very well be up and set by this week, but after all the hype that has been building up, should the fight be absolutely canceled…it’ll be a huge blow to boxing and to us, the faithful fans of the sweet science. Shame on all of them.

floyd is a ducker.

I don’t know how to end my speech it’s on phobias it’s really good and all but i just don’t have a really good ending

It kind of depends on your intro. It should come full circle. Most introductions will prepare the audience for the approach you plan to take. If you are asking a question of the audience in the intro, leave them with a question to ponder at the end. If you begin with statistics, end with an emotional statement that you hope your audience has derived from your speech. I hope this helps. But if you need more ideas, email me.

any good idea’s? Please help. Thanks
"Now to wrap this all up, let me tell you all a secret. I have a phobia about public speaking."

I’m going with my parent to Texas to vsit my aunt (since i’m scared of airplanes i’m not going by myself). I REALLY want to go but i’m SUPER freaked out! I’ve been scared to go on planes since i was 7 and i’m 19!!!!!!!!!!!! I’ve always been scared to crash and also to have hijackers on the plane, and i know i’ll go to heaven if something happens but i wanna live a full life. Texas is like 2 hours away but i get scared anyway. How can i get over it?!?!?!?!?!?!?! I’m not a baby it’s just that planes freak. me. OUT!

You could speak to your doctor and have him prescribe you a sedative or antianxiety that you would take before you travel. That way you could just sleep on the flight. Or you could try behavioral therapy to get to the root of your fear but that could take a while. Good luck = )

Please help me! I have like a gazillion phobias & anxieties I’m terrified of everything - flying: I think it might crash, cockroaches, needles, the dark, ghosts/paranormal things, dying, pain, heights, growing old, fire, the dentist, crickets, going in a car because i think it might crash, I’m claustrophobic, I won’t go anywhere on my own or if I don’t know anyone, scared of going to sleep because I get terrible nightmares … I could go on and on seriously!! I even get anxious when I pick up the phone! My heart pounds in my throat and I can’t breath properly. It doesn’t help either that I have asthma which just makes it worse!!

Also I’m a terribly hopeless romantic but I’m also scared that if I meet someone in the future he’ll end up being a killer or something or he’ll just leave me at the alter like you hear about those stories of guys who are all perfect untill you get married and then they’ll turn on you. When I see a movie you know how they have the guy and the girl who look into each others eyes when they’re about to kiss for the first time and then I think awwww how romantic, then I think how scary it could be and my heart starts pounding.

We went overseas two years ago on a huge trip we went to 6 countries and I was fine before that, cause we’d been overseas before and I used to love flying, but then suddenly when they closed the doors I started to freak out! and every little tiny thing that wasn’t perfect I freaked out and thought the plane was gonna crash. My tray table was loose once and I thought well what if everything else is loose what if the engine falls of the wing and then the plane crashes and we all die! Also, remember the TWA 800? Apparently these girls were offered a different flight and so they took it and thats the plane that blew up .. well the same thing happened when we left london to go to dubai, the check in guy said do we want to take another flight 1 hour earlier because it was only half full or something so my dad said we would and then I started to freak and think the same thing was gonna happen to our plane! Obviously I got here safe, but I’m scared that because I’ve been on nearly 20 flights in my life that the next one I go on the plane will crash because the more times you go on a plane the more likely it is to crash.

Now my biggest problem of all is my extreme phobia of the dentist! I’m sooo scared of going that if I ever get a toothache or something wrong with my teeth in the future, I just won’t go and’ll end up having heart disease or something which I’m terrified of that also but my brain just tell’s me it won’t be as bad as going to the dentist which I know it’ll of course be tonnes worse then the dentist but I physically can not go to the dentist. And then I’m scared that I’m gonna get high blood pressure because I keep freaking out about these things and that causes major major stress.

I need like a million hypnotherapy lessons or something to cure all these phobias because theyre literally just taking over my life but is there any way I can get over them myself I can’t exactly shell out the money for a hypnotherapist because I’m only 18, or if I do end up getting the money for one from somewhere, I’m scared that because I have all these phobias it’s too much to cure and I’ll be a hopeless case. What do I do to get over my phobias myself, Please please help me!!! This is literally taking over my life and my rationallity.

And please no rude answers!

Phew! You’ve got a lot of stuff going on there. Your fears and phobias definitely appear to be interfering with your life. I think I’d suggest you start with a therapist. Once you explain yourself to the therapist hopefully they can determine whether or not they can help you alone or suggest you see someone to obtain medication. Often people need medication and talk therapy to overcome problems like yours. If it’s some sort of obsessive-compulsive disorder medicine can help to stop some of these interfering thoughts you have over and over again.

On another note, there are dentists who specialize in working with patients who are extremely fearful of seeing them. They offer sedation to relax patients, along with headphones with music to calm people down. If you don’t go to the dentist routinely you can have bigger problems that do cause a lot of pain.

Good luck to you, and I hope you are feeling better (and calmer) soon.

I am due for a phisical soon and I have a serious needle Phobia I will definitly have to get my blood drawn and probally have to get at least one shot. I am extreamly nervous. Every time I get a shot i end up screaming and crying until i faint or vomit and having a bruise at the injection site. Is there any way that I can make it easier please help!!! I am petrified!!

I am too! Always been all my life. I tremble and get ill to my stomach.

I got smart in recent years. I ask the nurse if I can lay down (because one time I fainted when they drew blood) during the shot and explain why. I, on purpose look away, but ask the nurse to tell me when they are going to put it in. I take a relaxing breath and let it out as they give me the shot.

I find this work psychologically and it also help the area heal faster as the muscle is relaxed during the injection.

Alas that I resort to the internet for advice.

My current girlfriend and I have been dating and faithful to each other (well I am certain about myself, but now I’m second guessing about her) for about a year and a half. We are around year apart (I’m almost 20 and she is 18) and are both attending different universities in-state which are about an hour and a half apart. I have loved her (and still do) since before we legitimately started dating. As for her, she has told me that she loves me and has continued to do so. I realize that I am fairly protective of her, but I’d like to think that I’m not overbearing. I accept that she is going to be hanging out with the people who go to her school more than she will be with me (I do sometimes make jokes as a way of coping with the unfortunate situation).

From this my actual problem arises. My girlfriend has told me that she has been hanging out with one of her female friends. Her friend then told her that she (the friend) is confused about her sexuality and subsequently told my girlfriend that she is attracted to her. In the following weeks, my girlfriend told me that her friend has been fairly aggressive when pursuing my girlfriend. The friend initiated the first kiss and my girlfriend told me that she did not stop her, nor did she dislike the act. My girlfriend has kept me updated on all these happenings, she said it was only experimental, and told me that she did not see their activities going farther than kissing. At first, I was not opposed at all to the situation, which is certainly every guys fantasy, because she has told me of previous ‘experiments’ and is not afraid to comment on another girls looks (and whether or not she deems them attractive).

However, in my attempt to surprise her by arriving extremely early to her university dormitory with breakfast and waiting for her to return from her first class, I was greeted (after having phoned her and finding that she had skipped class) by her and her friend alone in her dorm room. ***This seems like a scene from some shitty T.V. drama or teen movie, but this is the honest truth.*** Had the person been a male, I would have left without a second thought, but since it was her female friend, I didn’t really think much of it (even though her friend was quiet and hasty in leaving, I attributed that to the earliness of the occurrence). Afterward we lay down in her bed, where she proceeded to tell me that her and her friend had gotten into touching each other directly and that she intends to continue to and further their sexual escapades.

She said it first happened the previous weekend and I confronted her on whether or not she would have ever told me had I not been there that morning. She said that she would have told me, but now I am skeptical to that answer. My trust in her has declined tremendously, because I thought we were an exclusive couple (minus the kissing between the two, which I didn’t mind). The entirety of the weekend then consisted of fighting. She does not see her ‘experiment’ as cheating on me and I am not so sure that I can believe the same. She says that she would never leave me for her friend, but I don’t know if I can trust her like I used to. In the end she first asked if I wanted an ‘open’ relationship (meaning that she wants to be together, but also be free to see other people as in guys and girls) and I had told her no. She then retracted the statement several times and blamed it on her confusion over what she wants. I asked her what the point of the relationship was if I couldn’t give her all that she wanted. That, like most of my questions that day, went unanswered. She kept on saying that she didn’t want to break-up, that she still loved me, and that she "no longer knew what she wanted." The weekend together ended with her wanting a week, during which I would not contact her at all in any form, to collect her thoughts.

I still love her with all my heart and will love her (if only platonically) for the rest of my life. Period. We are best friends who became lovers and neither of us (she has told me) can imagine our lives without the other being some part of it. I am just confused about what I should do in this situation. I know that her and I are going to be apart (though I have told her that I would gladly transfer schools for her) and I don’t want to think too much farther into the future as that is not how I like to live. I feel that I have been as good a boyfriend to her as possible and yet she still needs to have extra flings?

I am conflicted between my love for her and her apparent phobias concerning commitment (no not as in marriage, but as in an exclusive relationship). If this experimental side of her is not in love, then I feel that I want to stay with her until she outgrows it. But I am no longer sure that I can trust her to be faithful. She has already overstepped the boundaries of most guy/girl relationships, but how do I know that she won’t be "experim
"experimenting" with other guys now, too? Or if she already has? She continuously states that she isn’t a cheater, but I no longer know what she considers cheating. We talked for hours on this subject and I have told her my feelings on it and yet I am still fairly hazy on her true feelings. I have told her that I do not ever plan on becoming anymore than friends with any other girl while we remain together even though she has personally suggested that I do. And I am confident that I am straight, so her offers of me ‘experimenting to even the relationship out’ are frivolous.
During this week of no contact, I believe that the future of our relationship will be decided and what I really want to know is what I should do? I would like to respect her wishes and not contact her, but how can she decide her feelings on me like this? Am I being unfairly treated and am just blinded by my love for her? Should I feel at all threatened by her new “girlfriend”? Or should I just look at this as an opportunity to gain new sexual experiences (e.g. threesome) myself (while remaining in a loving relationship)?

Any advice given will be taken with multiple grains of salt seeing as this is the internet. But I am open to any comments, suggestions, words to the wise, etc.

Thanks to all repliers in advance.
****Sorry for that abrupt ending in my first post. I didn’t look up any length restrictions.****

So now you need to decide if you want an open relationship (which it already is given what she’s doing… in fact it doesn’t matter if the other participant was male or female, regardless of how she sees it).

My son wont hardly eat anything, ive tried so many different foods and cutting out all milk but he just wont eat and i don’t want to force him and give him food phobia’s but im at the end of my tether at getting him to eat anything! Any suggestions?

he will eat when he is hungry just keep offering it and even if he just takes a few bits here and there, at least its something and perhaps enough for him, some children are picky eaters, some slow eaters, some like to graze, they will eat little and often and dont like to sit down to big dinners, just keep offering, leave small plates of finger foods within his reach, chopped fruit, veg, cheese, sandwhiches, stuff that doesnt matter if it goes cold, chicken, sausage rolls, pizza etc, he may take some food from the plate from time to time and inbetween offer yoghurts, biscuits and crisps eating something is better than eating nothing!