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I don’t have any purpose in life,no friends,no money,am depressed and have social anxiety,should I end it all?
I am a guy early 20s…Is there a painless way to die?
NOPE! Why don’t you start by Googling "FAILED SUICIDE ATTEMPTS",I think you’ll pull up some pretty scarey stuff…like how about 70% of people who try it FAIL!
How people who overdosed just ended up living,but RUINED their own liver….or the people that shot themselves,but lived…now their vegetables,disformed faces,or paralyzed,ect,ect The girl who threw herself infront of an Amtrack train,she too lived…but both her legs are GONE now:-( Story after story…very SCAREY,and it proves one thing…you are NOT in charge,even of death.
I am so sorry you are going through all this,I’ve been through it myself,so believe me,I do get it!
But you have to understand something…there’s only ONE person in charge of how/when you die…and that’s GOD,and if you try it,and it’s not "your time to go",then say HELLO WHEELCHAIR/BRAIN DAMAGE/MISSING LIMB/ECT/ECT
Pray,look for God,if you REALLY want to know why your here,and what the "purpose" is in all this…just look with all your heart:-)
In the meantime…know that you ARE loved…somebody is going to CRY when you die…somebody thinks about you ofton…even if you don’t know this/or don’t feel it.
Think about calling a suicide hotline,talk to someone who cares,they know what your feeling,my guess would be a lot of those volunteers have been where your at(and recovered)and that’s why they are volunteering there now.
Don’t try to mess with something(death)that you can NOT control the outcome of!
Good Luck:-)
Shit man I’m just like you.
No don’t end it. Get a job to fix the money thing. Then try to make friends at work. Or you can join a youth group of some other club. Whatever you do know that there ARE other people out there like you. I often feel like everyone else has it made and I’m the only one with challenges in life but I guess after seeing your question I know that’s not true…
And multivitamins help with anxiety. Just thought I’d throw that out there.
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Try doing things for less fortunate people or spend time with lonely people. Utilize your time in a beneficial way and it will make you feel more fulfilled and have better self esteem.
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i currently feel the same the way you do.i relised that i had a problem and i had to do something before ive dug too deep of a hole.im going to start therapy on mon.im only 18,but if i can relise that i have a problem,so can you.please seek help.suicide is never the answer.
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You should not try to kill yourself. Maybe you should find someone to talk to that would be more helpful. Try calling this number 1-800-784-2433 or even this number 1-800-273-8255. Good Luck!
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no sweety, Please don’t!
its common for people in their early 20s to be depressed & have no money. (= it doesn’t mean it will always be like that.
as for the social anxiety i know what you mean & know how horrible it is to cope with. ive had really bad anxiety for 3yrs now. ruined my social life.
you really need to see either a psychiatrist or psychologist & get onto some anti depressants. i promise you will feel better after a while.
Everyone has a purpose in life, it may not seem that way sometimes but you are so young, don’t give up hun xx
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The way you are thinking now is what causes anxiety!!
DEATH COMES ON ITS OWN TIME.
friends can be made at social events.
Join a gym
Find a job at a social place *mall*even a grocery store.
the more social you are the better your life becomes.
sure money is a necessity but money is not everything.
you have to build yourself up mentally before physically
build your mind and make it strong then build your life
Take some classes.. go to a gym… get a job..
depression is in the mind do not let it take over yours.
you are far too young.
I am only 19 and trust me, I know psychology inside and out.
take care!
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Consider filing for Social Security and SSI disability benefits. Call 1-800-772-1213 to make an appointment (I might have the phone # wrong but look in the phone book under Federal governmental offices for it if it is). Don’t waste any time calling since there is no retroactivity for SSI benefits. If you haven’t seen a doctor in the past 12 months you will be sent for a consultative exam. If you haven’t worked long enough to get Social Security disability you would probably be eligible for SSI disability. If your claim is approved for SSI you will automatically be entitled to Medicaid and then you could see a doctor who would prescribe for you the proper medication. Do not give up hope especially when the right medication will change your entire life.
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You sound exactly like me. No, you shouldn’t kill yourself. You’re too young to give up on living.
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NOPE! Why don’t you start by Googling "FAILED SUICIDE ATTEMPTS",I think you’ll pull up some pretty scarey stuff…like how about 70% of people who try it FAIL!
How people who overdosed just ended up living,but RUINED their own liver….or the people that shot themselves,but lived…now their vegetables,disformed faces,or paralyzed,ect,ect The girl who threw herself infront of an Amtrack train,she too lived…but both her legs are GONE now:-( Story after story…very SCAREY,and it proves one thing…you are NOT in charge,even of death.
I am so sorry you are going through all this,I’ve been through it myself,so believe me,I do get it!
But you have to understand something…there’s only ONE person in charge of how/when you die…and that’s GOD,and if you try it,and it’s not "your time to go",then say HELLO WHEELCHAIR/BRAIN DAMAGE/MISSING LIMB/ECT/ECT
Pray,look for God,if you REALLY want to know why your here,and what the "purpose" is in all this…just look with all your heart:-)
In the meantime…know that you ARE loved…somebody is going to CRY when you die…somebody thinks about you ofton…even if you don’t know this/or don’t feel it.
Think about calling a suicide hotline,talk to someone who cares,they know what your feeling,my guess would be a lot of those volunteers have been where your at(and recovered)and that’s why they are volunteering there now.
Don’t try to mess with something(death)that you can NOT control the outcome of!
Good Luck:-)
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I don’t have any purpose in life, no friends, no money either….
but I don’t want to end it all.
Reason why I am living, because I set goal for myself.
So go and set some goal… what do you want to be?
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Well if you aren’t certain (and you’re asking, so I don’t think you’re certain) I’m going to go with no. There’s always time to kill yourself later. Death, on the other hand, is a bit final.
Social anxiety is a bear. I don’t envy you. I do have many friends with social anxieties in varying degrees, though, and they’ve all found ways to cope. It took work for every last one of them, and not a small amount of research. Some of my geekier (phd candidate) friends did their own research, but many had a trained pro help them find ways to live the way they wanted. It isn’t about changing yourself into some gregarious party animal that you aren’t–they just found ways around their phobias so it didn’t prevent them from things they really wanted to and have in life.
As for the rest: money, friends, purpose . . . they can be acquired. No, really. It isn’t a permanent condition. You aren’t missing two legs or half of your brain or your recently deceased parents. It takes time, and there are certainly plenty of obstacles, but when you know what you want, you CAN go get it. Start small and try to slog through the hold-ups and disappointments that I can promise you will periodically crop up. If you’re in college, counseling is usually free or dirt cheap, and believe it or not, this is what psychologists DO. They have tips a-plenty on overcoming personal hurdles to get what you want out of life, and they’re also someone to report back to with successes and failures so you don’t get too mired in your own terrified take on things.
Good luck.
I see quite a bit of hope in your situation.
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I was in the same situation 20 years ago like you are now. I am not going to preach you not to end your life on religious ground. But why give up? Everybody has a purpose in life. It so happens that you don’t enjoy your everyday life and you feel it sucks big time but it can change. And it will change. That’s right go to gym, work out until you have no energy left so you will sleep better. sleep deprivation can have negative effect on people. So force yourself to the gym. Tell yourself you are a cool dude and believe it. Chicks dig guys with great personality and big smile. Have a great sense of humor. tell people jokes and laugh together. Smile a lot even when you feel sh!tty. My husband always says to people he barely knows " hey, you are looking good". Some might think you are just kidding but Everybody loves complements especially about their looks. you will notice their attitude towards you will start to change. it will be very positive and you will gain friends.
Other people’s attitude towards you is reflections of your own. Stay away from people with negative attitude. it’s contagious. It will work. Happiness has very little to do with money. If all these fails, go and live in Asia. Believe me you will see.
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self. married to a great husband.
dont end it before you’ve tried every avenue for help, the first being going to your doctor to tell him this.
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Hey welcome to the real world! You are in the same shape as 10% of unemployed Americans today.
Fortunately Americans have a tendency and willingness to survive, even if it’s to only get kicked in the rocks sometime further on down the road and start all over again.
Sure there are painless ways to off yourself, but everyone that has known you for twenty years doesn’t have that option! They are just screwed and some probably cannot even afford to do anything with you after you are gone unless someone in your family is handy and coats you entirely in polyurethane, sticks a bulb in your hand, an on/off switch in your fly and you can only guess where the cord will come out.
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Wouldn’t want to eventually wind-up in a garage sale as an oddity.