Hi guys. : )

Okay, this may sound weird to you but I am always concerned about having to pee. It is such a fargone fear that it stops me from going places unless I know there will be a bathroom available. This fear started when I was a kid, in three instances that still scare me.

1. I drank a lot of water during the day and by nighttime, I was peeing every five minutes.
2. This is the worst one: I had to pee really badly but since I was always fighting for the washer in the apartment complex (this happened when I was about 12) I decided to hurry down and throw the clothes in the available washer. I guess I underestimated my need to pee and all of a sudden I couldn’t hold it anymore and I ended up peeing. I was mortified. No one was there but that memory is stuck in my head.

3. In middle school, during one of my classes, I had to pee really badly and I asked my teacher if I could be allowed to go to the bathroom. It wasn’t like she was teaching. We were doing sit down work, but she told me no. I asked again and she said no. Finally, I told her I was going because I was going to pee myself if not.

It sounds irrational, but now into my early 20s, I am terrified of long bus or car rides because I’m scared that I will have to pee and there won’t be a bathroom. I HATE public restrooms and it actually took me 5 minutes to muster up the courage to even enter one at a local beach.

I feel like this problem is keeping me from doing a lot of things. I’m not sure if it’s all psychological or a real physical problem. I would say that I have the urge to pee every 2 hours but there have been times when I’ve been really busy and have been able to wait 4-5 hours.

Please help me. This thing is taking over my life. I want to live more this year and I feel like this is something that will hold me back.

Hello Kizzieke,
I think it is both, but more a psychological than a physical problem. I also need to pee about every 2 hours. A bit similar to you the problem rose in periods of my life when I had to keep tight my bladder for a too long time. Then the bladder gets more nervous and this affects your mind. Your bladder already alarms you when it is maybe half full.
At school I did not ask the teacher, I just went to the door and said: "I’m sorry I have to go to the bathroom." or "I’m back immediately!"

Especially when I chill/feel cold my bladder is less tolerant. Then I try to find a place to pee, but as calm as possible. I’m conscious I have some more time, but I should look for it. The more nervous I am the less tolerant is the bladder.

I also dislike to go to stinky public restrooms, but my happiness I found a place I feel better after weighs more.

Try to take care of your physical desire by peeing as frequently as you need to. But never try to squeeze out your pee by your fear not to find a proper place to pee within the next hours. Try to be calmed and to calm yourself while you pee. After your first flow maybe wait a little time and calmly pee more if there is some left. - Otherwise your bladder gets more nervous and urges to pee more frequently. I made this experience.

If this way you can calm your bladder, I hope you neither will be hyper nervous.
Your hate of public restrooms combined with your intolerant bladder could be problem. I think you are a girl, or? Maybe you can try to pee without sitting down onto the closet. That’s less easy but maybe a compromise, so at least your bladder is emptied and your buttocks still clean. You also could take some spray with you and make the official restroom more pleasant for your nose for the while you are there
Think of the much better feeling after. - Or you are very confident to find a more pleasant place to pee. Try to think rational and forget your emotions for a while I know by myself this can be really difficult, but certainly you also will be happy after you did

When I am anywhere I also have a look for a bathroom. Now I’m used to act this way and before I saw your question I almost forgot I have (had) this problem. Actually now it is no real problem to me anymore.

Peeing is a humane necessity. Everybody has something that’s a bit different from the majority of the people. If you have to pee more frequently they have to accept this. At long bus or car rides you certainly regularly make stops to pee. If they feel annoyed, tell them openly your bladder is a bit affected. Then I hope they will accept it more willingly if you politely ask them to make another pee stop.

I hope I could have helped you, so you feel much better now

André

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