End Anxiety Program

How can I get over my OCD.?

admin — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 06:32:31 +0000

I’m only a teenager and have been suffering from OCD for a few years now. It’s warped into different things such as irrelevent worries to phobias. Now, it’s changed into worrying about HIV and getting pregnant. I have many issues relating to OCD but using the bathroom is probably the most serious. I have such a strong fear of getting HIV and getting pregnant that using the bathroom makes me worry. I will sometimes go through a whole roll of toilet paper because I have to make sure that it doesn’t touch anything such as a towel, the garbage, or the sink if I think that anything might have blood or semen on it. I also have to make sure I wash my hands before I use the bathroom or take a shower, and that in itself is a time consuming task. I sometimes take up to 10 minutes just using the bathroom and it really makes me frustrated. I just want to just say no to my OCD behaviour and worries but I just can’t manage. When I do manage to resist falling into OCD behaviour, it ends up in me worrying for days that I might have HIV or gotten pregnant. I know in my mind that this is irrelevant and that I shouldn’t be letting my fears take hold of me. But as a person living with OCD, That is hardly a possible thing to do. Commen sense just doesn’t seem to be reasonable. I want to get help but in the meantime I want to be able to say no to some of my OCD behaviours. It’s so difficult to do and I just can’t seem to take a hold of my OCD. In the end, OCD takes a old of me. It’s a cycle that lasts for the whole day, and dictates most of the things I do everyday. If anybody has had similar experiences or is living with OCD that is similar to mine, as well as any suggestions that may help me get over my OCD, it would be greatly appreciated! Thanks
Talk to Mum about it and She might take you to the doctors, who will probably send you to a good therapist, It can be embarrassing talking to someone about it, but Sure as hell it will help you overcome this.

There could be a number of things causing this such as stress.

It is not that likely that will be get pregnant just by touching semen and touching your lady bits, Because sperm can live up to three days in a woman and die more quickly when Out of a woman.

I once heard a ridiculous story about a 14 year old who got pregnant after she bathed in the same water as her dad who presumably masturbated. This Story is NOT true, and if it was there would be lots of news coverage.

It is impossible to get pregnant or STI’s if you are a virgin!

What can i do now? I just want to end it all. what are other options?

admin — Sun, 22 Aug 2010 14:21:18 +0000

The cops told my mom, "do not send her back to detroit. There is obviously major problems there." I ran away so i wouldn’t go back yet she wouldn’t listen. My family here threatened her. Because if i wasn’t returned back to michigan she would go to jail for legal problems from the divorce. She lied and said ill be right back after i get my stuff. im stuck here now. No one believes me about the rape and being molested because they think i pulled it out of my ass so i wouldn’t have to go back.It happend so much they think i’m lying. in arizona and michigan. Im not emotional about this. i actually fall in love with the people who does this to me. Because in my head your only suppose to do these things with the people you love. so im even in love with my own cousin. its fu*king sick. No one listens. My doctor judges me because i get so emotional i cant talk at all. I have no friends because i have anxiety or i pissed them off when i get very depressed. I just want to end it. I can’t believe i didn’t tell the cops. I always see the best in even the worst of people. What can i do now? I’ve failed suicide and running away. I can’t live with my abusive alcoholic father. i cant live with my sister, the meanest bitch i’ve ever known. and i cant live with my brother who has anger problems. i cant live with my mom because she is bipolar and insane and also abusive. can i just end it all? What other options do i have?

Maybe you can try and find a shelter in your area so you wont have to be in such an enviroment. You could also try to find a help line (i know of one in my area called kids help phone) they can give you other options, people you can talk to and help you. And if you regreat not telling the cops is there a way you can go talk to them or someother cops? I know it seems bad but just putt all your energy into finding supportive people and organizations (they are tons out there you just have to go looking!) that can help you!

can all what I do feel can be from anxiety? I am worried! :(?

admin — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 00:41:10 +0000

Hi, I feel that I am having pressure over my chest and heart even my stomach. It is very strong that I feel some pain as I want to die, as someone pressing on them, I feel hard time breathing, I get some anestathia in my face, hands,legs, neck and back. it starts with my lips sometimes. I feel my mind can’t stop thinking and i don’t even know what i am thinking I feel there are million thoughts going through my mind, I can hardly erase them. I have hard hard hard time sleeping as thining I might not wake up. I get tears before sleep and worried all the time. I feel dizzy 24 hours as I am on the ship, there is no balance, I have fear to go out or to sit with people. I have fear to hang the phone , I feel I might have missing words or stuttering, I can’t focus on my speach. I forget things so quick, I feel I am not breathing, my heart is not beating although it is beating. I break my nails sometimes, I have weakness in my legs and hands, I have hard time readin and focusing over what people are saying. I forget the words and the people around me look at me as what’s wrong with you, do you forget your language. i feel sad over that. I feel me is not me. I feel I am in a strange world, I feel people can’t understand what do I feel, They look at me as they are not understanding how bad do I feel as I am dying. I have hard time breathing specially when I enter the car or wearing very tight clothes, I feel nurverse. I have got panic attack and felt 100 % dead, I started screaming and acting like a crazy and I threw up. I have fear to take medicines I think they might kill me or leave side effects. I get worried when my parents leave home, I feel I might face the panic attack. please tell me do you feel the same as me. I want the person who had experience anxiety is the one who answer me please. and tell me do you feel what do I feel. or tell me what exactly do you feel while you are suffering from anxiety. please share some ideas how to go over anxiety and to be cured. and tell me from what you got anxiety. well for me I faced death in my life m then turn back to life after he surgery , so i feel worry so much about death.

by the way I am suffering from low pressure since I got anxiety , is that normal?

I feel I am fainting and going to pass away, do you feel the same?

I get headache and so much stings as electricity in my body, making me crazy.
and things telling me , you are going to die, it is the last day for you.

thanks in advance!
Hey there, I’ve had panic attacks and anxiety for nearly 13 years and I have overcome them successfully.

I truly understand how you feel and what you are going through.
I’ve created a website to help victims to overcome their panic attacks or anxiety and live life again.
Check it out and hope it will help you:

http://www.curepanicattackstips.com

When will my intrusive thoughts come to an end?

admin — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 20:32:55 +0000

I have anxiety disorder and I’ve been putting up with excessive violent thoughts in my head for months now and i’m getting used to it but i still get scared over those thoughts because they are truly horrifying. People tell me to seek a therapist but i feel that i can fight off these thoughts with help of my very own will. i’m 16 now and these "thoughts" started recently, i want to know if i do really need a therapist and take pills or can i fight them off and bring them to an end soon enough?

I would say it depends on how you confront these intrusive thoughts…

If you are able to engage these thoughts, and rationally interpret them as simply passing notions, then a therapist would not be at all needed

If you are intensely distressed by these thoughts, or if you take great measures to avoid reflecting on these thoughts, then you may have what is called an "anxiety disorder" and may consider seeking treatment.

I wouldn’t worry about drug treatment too much, as any drug treatment you would receive would not be long term.

All the best, hope you feel better.

My mom has OCD and makes me clean 24/7?

admin — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 00:13:37 +0000

My mom suffers from OCD and has for several years now. She thinks everything is completely filthy when it’s sparkling and spotless in our house. She’ll tell me to clean the house and after I’ve already slaved away for hours on end. She makes me do it all over again because she says it’s not good enough. Today is my boyfriend and I’s three year anniversary and she’s keeping me at home cleaning after I already cleaned it twice yesterday and the day before. If I don’t do it, she goes absolutely insane and verbally abuses me/threatens me/slaps me. Help?

You know, a lot of what you should do is dependent on your age and you didn’t say how old you are. If you’re an older teenager, say 16 or up, I would just go with your boyfriend and then call your mom and tell her it’s you and your boyfriend’s anniversary, that you have cleaned the house even beyond her OCD expectations and you’ll be home later, and just suffer the consequences. How bad can it be, more cleaning? Look, your mom obviously needs help. She’s a bit crazy. So, I don’t know what it will take, but maybe you can talk with a relative and see if maybe they can intervene for you. And you know, if it’s not clean to her satisfaction then she can always clean it herself.

OCD turning into Jelousy?

admin — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 08:22:47 +0000

Hi, i’m a 20 year old girl and i suffer from OCD, i’ve had OCD since i was about 11 years old, it’s went from bad to good, to worse, to even more worse, to really great and so on etc, the thing is, now i’m 20 i’ve really battled with it all my life and finally i’m in a really good place, but it’s obviouslly still there but it’s controlable, but what’s happened the past 2 years i don’t know, i’ve been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a bit years now, i met him when i was 18 and everything was great and fine, but what seemed just a little " habbit " further down the line, has now literally turned into my OCD and intrusive thoughts and it’s jelousy and i have never ever EVER in my life been that sort of person, it’s quite hard to explain but it’s like, it’s really getting to the point now where we can’t even watch the tv and it’s so sad because i love him dearly and don’t want to loose him.

He trys to understand but sometimes cant which is obvious and he gets frustrated. It used to be a silly little thought in my head thinking " imagine if i become one of those really jelous people" i duno just a stupid thing, but i feel because of that, it’s happened. If we’re in the car and i see a girl about 14 mile away my heart beats a little faster and i get these horrid thoughts that he is "staring" at her and i know it’s a problem because its that extreme, and i end up calling him a name like " your a total pig " like really snap out of the blue nasty comments, but it just isn’t the type of person i am. We can’t really go anywhere in public, watch films, tv talk or socialise to other groups or couples and i am really in despair now because i know its OCD and fear mixed in with it, i get horrible intrsuive thoughts about him cheating and secretlly staring at other girls when he just isn’t doing it and i hate myself for this, it’s like if im in the house and call him and i hear the tv in the background i get paranoid thoughts that hes watching films or tv for the "girls" in them which is just plain crazy, i know, i ‘ll admit this, and other times it’s resorted to physical violence, i get so rash and panic and stuff it’s horrible that i slapped him in the face whilst he was driving because i thought he was " having a sly look " as i put it to him, it’s so painful and it’s a terrible habbit that’s now getting way out of control and thoughts etc, it’s like it’s my new OCD, e.g ( My intrusive thoughts = Getting my boyfriend to justify something in an argument until i feel completely satisfied and it’s been " neautralised" then i’ll feel better ) That’s another thing with the jelousy aswell as the other stuff.

I want to get cognitive theorpy but i feel embaressed to go to my usual shrink and now bring up a new issue " jelousy". This all might seem crazy but if anyone knows a solution or has been through this at all and can some what hel i’d be really grateful.

Many Thanks

i suffer from ocd too and it hurts and effects my life as well,
but we have to live life, if your bf is trying to understand talk to him and tell him how you feel.
my bf deals with me having ocd and i know its hard for them trying to understand.
but i know that you can overcome it be more confident and stay strong,
if hes been with you that long then you know that he cares for you and wants was best for you.
try to trust him

wish my life would end right.. now!?

admin — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 21:00:26 +0000

i cant take it no more, no job been trying for ages am suffering from anxiety and i split up with this girl about 3-4 months ago she used to live with me in liverpool and i really want to see her b4 i go but i aint got no way of seeing her she wants me back i want her back i live in liverpool she lives in hartlepool and ever since we split up my world has been properly turned upside down i cant handle it no more i just want to go :’( :’(
and by the way this isnt any girl this is the love of my life well more than tha words cannot explain and i will end it now c u all

Everyone has their ups and downs. Some last longer than others..but ending your life is not the answer. We all have a purpose in life..you need to find yours, whatever it may be. We have all lost the love of our life at some point. Your happiness and peace should not be wrapped up in another person. Love yourself first, it’s the only way you can truly love someone back. Don’t give up’ everything gets better with time:)

Is there anybody out there who has beat Social Phobia?

admin — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 06:56:39 +0000

I have had it for most of my life. I am 29 and for the past 2 years it has steadily been getting worse and worse, I am now at a point where I am afraid to walk to the shop because I might see someone who knows who I am and will want to talk to me. I can never think of anything to talk about and end up looking a fool. Please I need to beat this now!

I’m 18 dropped out of school when I was in grade 9 I have been getting help from a mental health center you really need to get help with your social phobia they will help you beat it, I mostly have social phobia from feeling ugly and not wanting anybody to see me but I am starting to change.

One thing you can do is have some topics ready or ask questions like How have you been? Whats new with you? And go from there based on there answers. Don’t worry about looking like a fool, this is your life don’t ever let anyone stop you from living it. If they think you look like a fool (Which they won’t) Who cares it doesn’t change anything.

If you want to talk to me about this more email me via Yahoo answers.

I smoke a lot of shisha/hookah, does this affect my anxiety disorder?

admin — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 06:56:02 +0000

I smoke it daily, and afterwards i feel great, relaxed… ALMOST the same as i did before my anxiety disorder… but does this have any negative effects on the anxiety itself? would it be cured quicker if i stopped?

well if it makes you feel great and relaxed…that’s good if you have anxiety. But the tobacco could somehow effect your disorder somehow. Use soex shisha

I was very ill the end of junior year, now a senior - college applications advice!?

admin — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 08:54:18 +0000

Hi.
So I am currently a rising senior and I moved to a pretty well-recognized IB school in the DC area after living in Romania for five years doing the full IB program - I am talking MYP, PYP and then IB. My parents do foreign service so I have lived in 7 countries and 2 states in 16 years.

I have always gotten pretty good grades - above a 3.5 doing an international school curriculum (which I have heard is seen as more challenging? It seems to be the groupthink opinion…) I am not sure how it calculates because I have been on a 1-7 pretty much my entire life.

So then I moved in the middle of 11th grade to this new school and all this accumulated stress/anxiety build-up and I ended up being in the hospital for most of the last semester of 11th grade - 42% attendance for fourth quarter. Yes, it was that bad.

My grades are abysmal by my standards: they were Cs to Bs before exams and the majority raised to Bs to As after exams. This increase/change is without weighting. Nevertheless, concerning how long I was gone I would say I did okay.

My real point is that now I am totally freaked out about my chances for admittance because of this drop in grades and I am wondering whether I should apply Early Action to my all-time dream schools: University of Richmond, Wake Forest, Carnegie Mellon, and Elon. My ACT was a 30 and I am taking it again to improve. My favorite is UoR because of its atmosphere, opportunities offered and proximity so if I had to choose one to apply ED for one, it would be UoR.

Before I was thinking that I would apply Early Action to the Honors programs at my safety schools: James Madison U., George Mason U., and Virginia Commonwealth U.

Advice? Should I apply Early Action to my safeties? Or should I apply Early Action to my dream school(s)? Or should I do neither wait until I get back into the all As range to apply to show that I have recovered etc??

I have pretty solid extracurricular: international recognition for tennis, Speech and Debate, great Student Council work, part of the emergence and formation of the Romanian chapter of Amnesty International - very successful campaigns etc, MUN. My life - and the stories that comes with it - are definitely unique and I have ample material for life-changing/stand-out essays, in my opinion.

Thanks! Really, I would appreciate this so much. I will send you awesome things virtually!
Paula, you are speaking of Early Decision not Early Action. Early Decision is the "binding" one.

You’re only supposed to apply early action to one school. The thought is that if the early action school accepts you, then you are required to go there. I would apply early action to one of your dream schools (if you’re sure that you can afford it). Then for the other schools I would apply as early as possible, but not early action. Even if you’re not applying early action, many schools accept on a rolling basis, so the earlier you apply, the better. Good luck!

Edit: Sorry, you’re right, I was thinking about early decision. If I were you, I would try to apply Early Action to all of them, if you can get your applications in on time. The later you apply, colleges become more and more selective, so it is definitely to your advantage to apply early.